The Deadbeat Dad – That guy that has children, but opts against the attempt to take care of his child/children sufficiently (cited from Shawn Blanchard’s dictionary).
You know that guy! We’ve seen him a number of times growing up or we at least heard about him. He lurks around the outskirts of his child’s life avoiding contact and makes broken promises to the little innocent ones. Often times when I speak to young boys and girls that are in need of guidance they speak about that same guy. He’s an urban legend that comes to steal and destroy the future success and dreams of his own offspring. From alcohol abuse to domestic violence to the repeated absence, the cycle of the “Deadbeat Dad” permeates our communities. He sucks!
The Bright Side
While the stains from that guy weigh heavily on the future success of some. There is an adverse affect that I’ve noticed. Among my circle I see a trend of “Super Dads”! Some have biological children, some are family members or friends, and all of them are serving as mentors! They know that guy, the Deadbeat, very well and have vowed to never look in the mirror and see his reflection.
What can we do collectively?
The sad truth is, the Deadbeat Dad will continue to exist, but we have the ability to overshadow his impact. I’m sure you know some “Super Dads”. They are everywhere and sometimes they may be silent in their movements. Below are four key steps to making sure we overshadow the Deadbeats.
- Make the “Super Dads” (SD) known by sharing their greatness.
- DON’T let the SD hide their accolades and achievements and call it humility! (There is a time and place for that and this is not one of them!)
- Encourage the SD to continue their great work.
- Continue to expose kids to these men. Know that a “Super Dad” does not have to be physically present to have a positive effect on a kid. They simply need to be received as a role model.
The young people that we pour into will never forget us. They will grow and do greater works than we can ever imagine! We know their most frequent mode of communication is social media. We also know there are tons of trends that fill our timelines on social media platforms daily. Make sure you are doing your moral duty to share and fill your timeline with positivity for the innocent ones.
Quote of the Day
When you do for others what they can’t do for themselves you will never lack God’s favor.
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