It all started on the first day of high school when she rejected me. I didn’t have the courage to approach her so I sent a friend of mine who was a bit more familiar with her to speak on my behalf. Lets just say it didn’t work! This is where the 1st of 5 lessons began.
It’s innate for a woman to want a confident man. Rightfully so! Typically, men are “supposed” to be the bread-winners, the Kings of the jungle, and natural heroes according to Walt Disney and the Bible. The first encounter between a man and a woman sets the stage for a man to be considered a wimp or a winner. If a man believes in himself than he must have some reason for doing so. It’s a simple Jedi mind trick! Apparently, at this stage in my life I had never seen Star Wars… Truthfully, If you’re nervous she’s probably just as nervous as you are. Women want to be somewhere between equally yoked and in complete admiration of the man she is entertaining. Let it be known that a lack confidence says. “I’m beneath you” loud and clear. Have confidence my friend.
Lesson #1: A man should be confident with good reason.
Be More Than A Brand
Gym was 6th period. For the first 5 periods of the day it seemed like the favor of the ladies was on my side. I didn’t have to say much at all. I was actually shocked! One girl had the audacity to bark at me on my way to gym class. At that point I figured my brand spoke for itself. It made sense, I guess. However, the nice clothes, wavy hair, and smile was an epic fail in Kim’s book without personality. She wanted to know the real person behind the superficial brand.
Lesson #2: A man’s presence should speak volumes even in a pitch black room.
A Man With Edge
“You’re too nice!” Those were her exact words after I mustered up the courage to approach her the second and third time. Fellas, that’s not permission to be a jerk. This says “Don’t be a yes mamm!” or “Have a back-bone!” After all, she is the rib, or at least she would like to feel like it. She wants to feel protected and respected. A woman wants to be comfortable being lead.
Lesson #3: A man must have character and never be a push over.
Consistent And Persistent
It took me 3 years to actually get her! I cannot express how many times I approached this woman. Note! Please do not do the same exact thing over and over expecting a different result. By definition that is considered INSANITY. Be creative and stick to the path. It became routine to approach her, but my tactics evolved according to observation and time.
Lesson #4: Use failure as stepping-stones to success.
Listen to her
The reason I was able to have her hand was because I listened and responded with action. Reflection is key in the development of all relationships via business or romantic. Adjust accordingly without compromising the core of your being. Don’t change the essence of self. Instead, expand your self.
Lesson #5: Listen and respond.
Note to Kimberly: You were ahead of your time and I’m not sure if you realized it at such a young age. I take these 5 lessons and apply them beyond having the hand of my high school sweetheart. These are life lessons that extend to the business sector and overall growth of being a better person. Take another look at the 5 lessons with a business lens and you will see exactly what I mean! Thanks Kim:) We appreciate you!
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